[Part 1] Magnetic Confidence: Drawing In Love by Being Your Best Self

Author

Jessey McGuire
February 18, 2024

Hey amazing people,

It's such a privilege to write to you today. 

This is going to be a 3-part email series. 

There is so much I could say about dating.

But what I really want to focus on is:

  1. Authentic confidence 

  2. Self-worth/body image

  3. Attracting a loving relationship

As a conscious person, I want a conscious partner. Someone who brings their wholehearted energy to meet mine & we build a loving relationship together.

I don't buy into the idea that “relationships take work” … 

Every person I have heard say that looks and sounds miserable.

I buy into what Buddha said: 

“If you just like a flower, you pluck it. But when you love a flower, you water it daily”

Feel the difference? 

Let's talk about authentic confidence because I'm going to suggest some things that require you to dig deep.

Confidence is not outer bravado, it's an inner resolve.

An inner resolve comes from knowing who you are. 

This is something you practice each day.

It's choosing to wake up & live in the world with an attitude that:

“I am good enough as I am to take up space, use my voice & be comfortable in my own skin”

When men don't have this type of confidence they use alcohol to bolster their confidence and talk to girls. 

This has 2 main problems:

  1. I can’t talk to a girl unless I’ve had a few beers.

  2. The girls I meet are not interested in a conscious relationship.

So now we are really fucked. 

You’ve created a bed of nails that you have to lay on. To break free, you’re going to introduce yourself to girls in person while sober. 

It makes me laugh to write out loud because these are the things that guys struggle with that no one talks about!

Most Australian guys have such little confidence to introduce themselves in person, in daylight, to a girl they find attractive. 

Why? Who knows! I don't care anymore. 

I care more about finding solutions that help men have the confidence to introduce themselves, go on dates & get a girlfriend.

So here are some ideas for you that have helped me attract an amazing girlfriend. 

  1. Delete the apps & talk to more people in person.

Men or women, just have more conversations with people. This helps you get out of your head & comfortable in conversations. Practice in a cafe, the shops or wherever you frequent. You don't have to get a girl's number. You are not a creep for starting a conversation. End a conversation with “Nice to meet you. I hope you have a good day.” and walk off. This builds grounded confidence. 

I met my now girlfriend at a cafe I would frequent. We would chat here and there. I could see she was interested so I just asked her, “Hey, let's go on a date & get to know each other.”

Keep it simple. 

  1. Don't chase butterflies. Build a garden & they’ll come.

I love this analogy. As a man, it's easy to get swept up to chase butterflies. But what I’ve seen works is when I tend to my garden, which is my life, interests & work - I am in my power. I have more strength to walk away from girls who like to be chased … I have priorities and dropping them to try to get a girl is not one of them. Tend to your garden. Build your character. Walk away from drama.

  1. Get support.

Don't use a girlfriend to fill a hole in your heart. Remember, great relationships are when wholehearted people come together & build something beautiful. You avoid becoming codependent by getting private coaching to work through your issues with a coach, not your partner … or worse … your mother! 

Let me know if this resonates. You can reply to this email.

Be brave,

Jess. 

Ps. I have 1 space available for 1-on-1 3 month private coaching. We have to meet & chat first. You can book a free discovery call below. Speak more then!

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